Human is the most complicated creature I ever know. That explain why sometimes people cannot understand someone else. It is because there are varied identities in one person so it hard for other to know about someone else accurately. Because mostly we never seen someone as a whole person. We just know someone through one view based on one of his/her identity.
Actually that is really normal because to know someone’s identities accurately we need to spend so much time with him/her. That why we only know a few of people very well. This nature sometimes could make problem like mistreat, misunderstanding even fight or war. Personally I think every hostility in this world occur because people cannot view others’ whole identities
To be honest I have experienced mistreat because of this nature when someone said harsh thing to me because of my opinion. We were in the middle of debating on marriage’s problem. Actually everything was fine until we end up debating about which is better between house’s wife and career woman. To response I said that even one day I become a married woman I will still work. It turned out that he was against my opinion with saying that a woman should stay in house to take care of children. I keep rebating him until he said to me that I should never dream to lead my future children into successfulness because my life’s way is a career woman.
I was so angry at him. He doesn’t know anything about me but he dared to say such things. He never knows that aside from a student and a woman who someday should take care of her family. I am the eldest in my family so I have moral responsibilities to fulfill even no one ever told me so. He also never knows that become a teacher is my idea since I was in my childhood so I will pursue it. It is not like I am trying to deny my nature as a woman. What happen is my multiple identities create an invisible boundaries in area do’s and don’ts in my life so I have my own perspective on career woman Vs. house wife’s case.
I have to admit that I never forget about what he had said to me. At that time I even felt a need to rebate him over and over again. But then I realize if I have my own reason based on my multiple identities behind every action and thought I have, then so does him. I am sure he dared to say such thing because of his own multiple identities.
So to solve my problem I think all I need to do is to respect him. But still in the very first chance I get to meet him again I will talk to him about this matter. But I will try my best not to judge him because I do not want to become a narrow minded person. I want to become a person who able to see others through multiple views based on their multiples identities.
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